Our article last week shared how to give oral to a woman and this week it is about oral on a penis. We touched on it last week but will say it again, oral sex is not something everyone enjoys. The question is that because you haven’t enjoyed because you don’t like it or because your partner didn’t know what you liked. It has to be said a penis in your mouth is not always on the top of your to do list but on the other hand some women love giving a blow job. Men tend to love blow jobs because it feels like sex, but the experience (very visual) is very different and they don’t have to do much, but it should also be said some men are not fans.
For some confidence in how to give a blow job is the sticking point for enjoying giving the experience to their partner. So, we thought we would share some tips on how to give a great blow job while making it more pleasurable for yourself at the same time;
1. Communication is important
We say it a lot but our little survey reinforced the point that sex is a taboo topic many of us find it hard to talk about, even couples struggle to talk about it. If we don’t tell our partners what we like, what we don’t or even what we are unsure about how will they know, they are not mind readers and neither are you. Partners please ask him what he likes. Pay attention to how his body reacts to your touch, encourage him to gently guide you and listen.
2. Enthusiasm.
That little survey we did about different sex acts told us that men want to know their partner is enjoying giving them a blow job. A common issue that was raised about getting a blow job is that partner’s didn’t seem to enjoy it, so it seems that enthusiasm is important. No one is suggesting you pretend you like something you don’t, no not at all. If you do decide to give your partner a blow job, it seems your attitude and enthusiasm is just as important as your technique. Ways to show enthusiasm:
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Make eye contact. No creepy starring but do make a conscious change in focus from looking at his penis to looking into his eyes.
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Tell him how aroused you are. Women are not the only ones that get self-conscious during oral sex, guys do to. So, letting him know you are enjoying yourself and getting turned on will help with any self-consciousness. Simple and to the point could be "I love how your penis feels in my mouth."
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Get feedback as you go it shows you care and that you want to give him the most pleasurable experience you can. Again, simple and straight to the point, how does this feel? and guys give her guidance, she really does want to please.
3. Get Handy.
Your mouth has to do all the work. Your mouth gives the wet warm feeling but your hand gives the tight feeling. You can switch to your hand if your jaw gets tired. Just on that if your jaw gets tired quickly you may be using too much suction, so mixing it up with your hands can help give your jaw a rest.
4 technique tips once things have warmed up a bit:
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Wrap your dominant hand around his shaft, then add your mouth.
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Make an O sign with your index finger and your thumb and hold those close to your lips.
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Move your lips and hand up and down his penis.
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You can also keep your mouth in one place and move your well lubricated hand up and down his penis. This one is a great move is he is well endowed.
Once you have those happening smoothly you can try mixing things up a bit. Try mouth on penis and rotate your firm wrist in clockwise circles as you move your hand up and down. Bring your other hand to cup and gently squeeze his balls.
4. Keep it wet
Another point that seemed to come out in the chats we had about blow jobs was that most guys like their blow jobs wet so lots of saliva is a big tick. Don’t be afraid to use spit or flavoured lubricant made to assist during oral can be useful. A bonus tip have some water nearby to help if your mouth gets dry.
5. Soft tongue.
Your tongue provides warmth, texture, and wetness when you are giving a blow job, so keeping it soft while you move your mouth up and down his penis improves those sensations. Also try using the tip of your tongue to trace the head and frenulum, both packed with nerve endings (underside where the penis head - if circumcised - meets the shaft). You can also use the flat side of your tongue to explore his penis from the bottom of his shaft to the very tip and down again.
6. Some advanced tips.
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Deep throating is an advanced skill. It is when you take his penis so far into your mouth, it's in your throat. Some women find that this activates a gag reflex, but you can train yourself to be able to take it if that is something that interests you. It is Ok if deep throating does not interest you just like it is ok if it does interest you. Deep throating is about the sensation (which from all reports is amazing) and the visual experience of seeing their penis fit inside your mouth. However, it is an advanced move and if you choose to do this you should ease into it. Make sure you can breathe clearly through your nose and stop if it becomes an unpleasant choking experience.
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Butt play is not for every guy so please ask before you use your finger in his butt. Some love it, for some it is a no-go zone. (No judgment either way.) With permission move your fingers toward his perineum - the area between his scrotum and anus then explore from there. You can stimulate his prostate or male G Spot doing this, the prostate lies under the perineum.
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The other advanced move would be mouth on the head of the penis, hand on shaft and scrotum followed by playing with his butt (if you are allowed to).
With any sexual activity this needs to be your first concern.
STIs can be transmitted between partners during oral sex. Put even more simply, you can catch an STI during oral sex. So, it’s very important to protect yourself even during oral sex, or any form of oral sex. Condoms and Gloves are your go to's here.
If you don’t date any other partners, you both/all get tested regularly, you may make different choices. If anyone has mouth ulcers, herpes or any other mouth issue, protection is a must.
So, there are a few tips to give a great blow job. Give them a go and if you have any extra tips we can add let us know.
Disclaimer: The information contained in this document should be read as general in nature and is only to provide and overview of the subject matter. Please read product packaging carefully and follow all instructions. Seek advice specific to your situation from your medical professional or mental health professional. Safe - Sane - Consensual
